Want To See A Diva Come Unglued?
Thursday, August 4, 2011
All you moms, and probably Cheeseboy, will get it right off the bat. Summer. That's right summer when all the kids are out of school. Unruly, noisy, screaming, chair pulling, brats are out and about with their beaten down parents.
When did parents stop being parents? When did the kids decide to take over the earth and rule by shrill screams and slaps to the face? I think it was about the time, duh duh duh.......don't shoot me here, but I have a sneaking suspicion it was when parents decided to be their kids' friends and not their parents.
Kids need boundaries folks, as a matter of fact they crave them. The way I see it walking through life with no boundaries is kind of like walking along a wooden bridge 300 feet over a canyon without handrails, not the canyon, the bridge.
We all have to live by limits. We all have to be respectful of others and that begins with little ones. It's really not the kids' fault that they're running around screaming like little stuck pigs, it's the fault of the parents.
It was all I could do today to bite my tongue while the wild bunch of kids ran, screamed, threw, and fought in Starbucks for what seemed like hours this morning. All the time the mom and dad were saying "Stop that," "you need to be quiet," "leave your sister alone," and my favorite of all time, said over and over, "if you do that one more time...." It's funny, the parents never said what was going to happen if the kid in question did that one more time. It's no wonder the kids kept at it until the frazzled parents grabbed a kid under each arm and left Starbucks crying themselves.
You could hear a collective sigh of relief when the family exited the store. If those kids act that way now, when they're 4-7, what in the hell are they going to be like when they're teenagers? What will they be when they're grown? Congressmen and Senators?
I'm by no means a perfect parent. My kids will tell you flat out that little fact. But something my kids did only once, maybe twice (except for the one with the disability) was to question what I said, at least in my presence. They knew I meant business. They knew their limits. They knew I had duct tape and I wasn't afraid to use it.
16 comments:
I think some people should refrain from becoming parents, they lack the disciplining skills and the kids turn out to be spoiled brats. It's ridiculous sometimes seeing a child having freedom to do whatever and not be restrained or reprimanded.
if a child slapped me in the face, i would strangle them...it would be a reflex. people would have to hold me back.
True story: at my old job, ...you know, when I was a high school teacher...there were two instances of teachers (both science teachers, both fired almost immediately) attempting to strangle a child. Seriously! Hands wrapped around their throats, choking the child out. In one case, my response to laugh, then swear, then laugh (this kid was so unliked that this act, which happened in front of students, wasn't even gossiped about. The rest of the kids were like, "yeah, well, you know, I want to strangle him too.") and when I heard it happened to a different kid I thought, "Good God...i couldn't stand that kid." Now, I'm not condoning this kind of behaviour...I'm just sayin.
My kids act like animals at home. I have tried everything from time out to whoppins and nothing works on them BUT when we go out in public they are the most respectful little gremlins I've ever seen. People comment on how polite they are.
At home I use that line "if you do it one more time" quite often and I'm pretty sure they dont care. If they tried that shit in a place like Starbucks I'd leave esp if I seen people working on computers or reading. That's just rude
"Kids need boundaries." They most certainly do!
And the bit about "parents decided to be their kids' friends and not their parents." I've always found that strange. Like you, I guess.
And Candace's stories were very telling. Thanks, Candace.
Hell yes. It made me sick when a friend told me his goal was to be his son's best friend. I said to him "Who will be his father?"
I wish I had a sticker I could slap on the forehead of some parents I see, ignoring obvious rude behavior in their kids. It is, in my opinion a type of child abuse to NEGLECT to instruct and discipline your child.
that is all
There would be hell to pay if short people ruined my Starbucks experience.
I hate when parents can't/won't/don't control their kids. HATE.
It's called consistency. Following through with the rules. Consequences. I get so tired of people not follow through with anything. That's when the kids begin to run the world.
I know that my granddaughter was doing something where I was afraid she would be hurt when we were on a sandbar. I must have had "the tone" in my voice when I raised it to get her attention because all three of my grown kids turned and paid attention too.
Oh the power!
Can't stand that! I would have to go up and tell them to get their shit together or get out. Or I would try to do that. I have offered parents who are alone and have a NEWBORN or few month old baby to hold the baby while they do whatever they are trying to do or help them put stuff in the car but those are BABIES haha
Also, they usually do not accept my help as they do not know me but I try anyway.
Ugh, I hate that and you're absolutely right. The way people are raising their kids now... they have no idea what it is to behave, to say "yes ma'am," and "no sir," and to win and lose with dignity. Seriously. So many of them, not all, have no empathy or compassion for others. It's a sad state of affairs. Spoken from the teacher's perspective... "Then they come to school... ugh!" Getting the kids to behave isn't nearly as bad as dealing with their parents. I cannot tell you how many times I had to "scold" a parent. Although in ways that had the parent not really knowing what happened. ;)
you know, some places you just deal with the kids making noise, but Starbucks? No freaking way. Lucky you didn't go off on them
I think the REAL line that the parents should say is ... 'If you do that 10 more times, I might pay attention' Sad but TRUE post! W.C.C.
Parents are parents!! They will be friends with their kids when their kids are grown...recently some one close to me, when talking about her child, said she wanted to be the cool mom! her daughters behavior is a testament to the fact that she is a cool mom..with a bratty daughter!! It frustrated me that parents want to be liked more than consistent!
You have to take a test to get behind the wheel of a car, but all you have to do is have a willing partner to become a parent?!? Why are people so effing clueless?
If you would have stood up and loudly said, "Tell your kids to shut up and sit down!", you probably would have received a standing ovation from everyone there.
AMEN!!
I live in fear of someone thinking that about my kids (and me). A huge majority if the time I could stop the behavior by spanking their asses but watch what happens when you spank a kid in public - everyone becomes CPS officials and it's infuriating because 'hello, do you want them to stfu and behave or do you want me to let this circus continue?' I have to just up and leave places all the time because they're acting like little felons. On a related note, I really thought I was going to be better at this parenting stuff...
Amanda;
I have had to take my kids out of public places before, especially the autistic one. After a time or two they KNEW I meant business and I'd just leave them at home the next time. Oh, I've spanked those butts before too.
Parenting is a hard, never ending job. My oldest are nearly 30 and I see no end in sight.
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